I think by now I have made it very clear that Arthur isn’t a big fan of sleeping. You know how they say that newborns sleep ALL THE TIME, well, it was a different story in our case. His naps wouldn’t last longer than 20-30 minutes. After months of waking every hour during the night, and suffering from severe sleep deprivation, we decided that was it…we needed a solution. We started looking into various sleep training methods. I started reading mom blogs and forums where mom’s would share their methods and experiences. That is when I came across “Bedtiming” by Marc Lewis. The book’s main “philosophy” is to start sleep training your child at the right age. It’s broken down into several stages explaining how your child feels and grows at every age, and which physical and emotional changes may interfere with sleep training. It also goes through the popular methods of sleep training, such as CIO and Ferberizing (gradual extinction).
Cry It Out (CIO), also known as “extinction”, is a method where you let your child learn how to sooth themselves to sleep. It is a very controversial method, and there are many debates around it. It can be distressing not only to the child but the parents. So when we started considering sleep training, Damon and I sat down to decide whether it was the right method for us.
The book suggests giving a sleep training method a try as early as 2,5 months, of course depending on how comfortable you are. That window of stability in your child’s development closes at 4 months, which was around the time we decided to give it a go. We went with the gentler approach where we timed ourselves and went into his room to sooth him every 5, 10, 15 minutes until he finally fell asleep. He cried for 4 days, but eventually learnt how to fall asleep on his own. Unfortunately, it all went down the drain when he got sick with cold 🙁 No matter what anyone says, I could never let my poorly child put himself to sleep by crying his eyes out. During that period I went back to nursing him to sleep and bed-sharing. At 6 months, which is considered an ideal time to sleep train a child, we decided to give it one more try. It was a little harder, oddly. However, within a week he started soothing himself to sleep after couple of minutes of moaning. Now, I would like to point out that he still woke up several times during the night, depending on whether he was teething, thirsty, or going through a growth spurt. I am just grateful for not having to rock or nurse him to sleep anymore 🙂
CIO and Ferberizing suggest leaving them to sooth themselves back to sleep, but I still go in to check on him. We tweaked a lot depending on what worked for us, and that’s what I would recommend doing. Every baby is different, so are the parents.
His current schedule (10 months)
He wakes up at 6-6.30 am, has his morning nap at 8.30am until 9.30, 10 or even 10.30 am at times (for the past few weeks)! His second nap is at around 2pm, which is approximately 30-40 minutes long. He goes to bed at 7-7.30pm.
He started sleeping through the night a lot more frequently. I finally started feeling like a human with all sleep I get at the moment 🙂
Don’t forget to check out our bedtime routine, if you haven’t yet x